So many relationships start off with romance and lust, some might call it the honey moon period because everything seems to go really well. Both of you are hanging out to see the other person or the intrigue of getting know the other person is rampant. It seems the fact that we are new to the other person it makes us so much more desirable.

So why does the honeymoon period end? because what attracted the person in the first place was because you were authentically you, you were just being yourself. As we get to know someone you find out what they like and what they don't like and then as if like a switch we start to change, to confirm to what we think the other person really likes. We forget that being us is what attracted them first off, so instead of changing to be something that we are not authentically we should step back and work out what makes us who we are. At the same time not disregarding the fact that there are things that obviously we could work on within ourselves. Instead of changing for someone else, grow for yourself and find your independence again.

When we become over-dependent on our partners we start to get caught up in the little things, start blaming them for our moods. When we are sad, angry, upset we find excuses that it is because they didn't do this or do that. But the reality of it all is that we depend to much on them to realise we are in control of our emotions, and that when we feel upset or allow things to get us upset then we have the control to change our state and perk up from the situation. If you were on your own there would be no one to have a go at when you got home if you had a bad day, there would be no one to blame for your upset.

It is these upsets and moments of disappointment that cause blocks in our relationships. We find our love being compromised by daily fluff, we throw the word trust around so easily and our appreciation of our partners gets compromised regularly. Its time to take control of you, live a little from your heart again. Next time you have a bad day take a moment to let it go. Start to become more aware of your states know that when you head home from a crap day and feel yourself getting upset because your partner didn't have dinner ready; think did they even know you wanted them to make dinner? they had no idea you had a crap day!

This does not insure that your partner will be the perfect partner but it will effect the way you interact with each other. You will find yourself thinking about how you react to your partner, even the tone of how you speak to your partner or even the words you use.