Punching pillows, hitting a wall or smashing things is not helpful. This type of behaviour only intensifies anger. It may make you feel good for a while, but it leads to increasing hostile and aggressive behaviour.

We create anger with our own thoughts and beliefs; therefore it is with those that we can manage anger.

Things you can do to help:

1. Think of a situation when you last got angry and ask yourself what triggered or invited your anger?

2. What beliefs and thoughts led to that anger? Some may be true and appropriate, others may be irrational

3. What happened as a result of your anger? What did you do? How did you feel? What happened in your body?

4. Now think of those beliefs and thoughts that led to the anger and ask yourself if they were helpful. What would be a better way of looking at things?

You can also:

1. Identify what things or situations make you feel angry

2. Write down the advantages and disadvantages of staying angry.

Using the above strategies will help you deal with unhelpful anger and lead to a more harmonious and happier life.

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