Wailing and sobbing, hating, hurting, texting, eating and not sleeping.

It can be a very tough time indeed when you and your boyfriend have just broken up. You most likely feel that getting your ex boyfriend back is just an impossible task. Is that even what you really want you may ask yourself, you certainly should be asking those sorts of questions.

If you are certain that getting your ex boyfriend back is the answer then you better stop, take a deep breath and clear your head!

Here's a few do's and dont's to get you on the right track:

Do take the time settle yourself and have a good objective look at what the real reasons for your break up were.

Don't ring, text or stalk him. Getting your ex boyfriend back by brute force will certainly plant the kiss of death firmly on your aspirations.

Do try and get out and about, be happy, if you are serious about getting your ex boyfriend back nothing will make him take notice quicker than a happy you out and about with your friends.

Don't try and make him jealous by taking the last piece of advice to an extreme and flaunting yourself around the hot spots, that is certainly a recipe for disaster.

Do make sure you seek the help, support and advice of family and close friends. Make a plan and know how you will go about getting your ex boyfriend back with a clear and confident head.

Don't try and go it alone or you may find you start to slide into self pity and lose your clarity and focus. It's just a short hop from there to loony ville and irrational behaviour, another surefire way of keeping your ex at bay.

There are some excellent resources available on and offline that contain some excellent strategies you can learn and use.

It's important to prepare yourself properly so a bit of research from people who have genuine experience and help to offer is an extremely good idea, getting your ex boyfriend back becomes a very real possibility after some space, thought and careful planning with the guidance of experienced folks who are happy to share their real world tactics.