So the basis of any technique to overcome rapid ejaculation has to be learning to identify the moment just before you ejaculate, and then letting your sexual arousal fall until you are no longer likely to ejaculate. You can do this by stopping your thrusts and remaining still inside your partner until your level of arousal has dropped. You can even withdraw altogether. But timing this is crucial. When you sense you're back in charge, so to speak, and the feeling of an impending premature ejaculation has passed, you can carry on enjoying intercourse.

Stopping premature ejaculation like this needs some self-discipline, because the temptation to simply continue thrusting and enjoy your ejaculation is strong! So you need to start by changing your approach to sex so that you have a strong wish to last longer during sex and a firm belief that you can stop your rapid ejaculation!

Of course, you can learn how near you are to the point of no return, just before ejaculation, during masturbation. Often men self-pleasure quickly and ejaculate as soon as possible: instead, you can develop more self-control over how soon you reach orgasm and ejaculate. When you begin to sense your orgasm and ejaculation is getting near, you stop stimulating yourself and wait until you feel that the moment of incipient ejaculation has passed. Then you can start to masturbate again.

It won't be long before you become much more sensitive to how near you are to ejaculation. The signals that precede your ejaculation, rapid ejaculation or otherwise, might include tension in your legs and groin, a full feeling in your testes (balls) and a tingling sensation in your penis. But whatever the clues are for you that you're about to enjoy your sexual climax, focus on them and become aware of how near to ejaculation you are.

Practice approaching ejaculation and then stop what you are doing. Soon, you'll feel more confident that your sexual arousal has dropped and you'll be able to keep yourself on the edge of ejaculation for increasing periods of time. This will also make your ejaculation much more powerful when it does occur.

You might also like to train your your so-called love muscles, or PC muscles, as part of your program to overcome rapid ejaculation. When they are fit, they contract more powerfully during your ejaculation: this adds to the pleasure of your orgasm. That muscle fitness also gives you greater control over when you ejaculate - not by clamping them down and stopping your ejaculation, but simply by giving you a sense of greater power and choice about when you ejaculate. Your PC muscles can be strengthened with "Kegel exercises for men" (research this on the internet for more details); you can identify them fairly easily by contracting them when your penis is erect. If you tone up your PC muscles you will ejaculate harder and have more pleasurable orgasms.

As you may have realized, the final stages of your program to overcome premature ejaculation require you to try this new found self-control as you enjoy sexual intercourse. If you feel you are about to ejaculate, pause until your level of sexual arousal has dropped, then carry on making love when you feel more in control.

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