The Sex Positions That Help A Woman Reach Orgasm During Intercourse

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  • Author Rod Phillips
  • Published August 29, 2008
  • Word count 960

Popular culture - especially porn - can make us all feel inferior and inadequate when it comes to enjoying sex. Men think they should be like studs who thrust away for ages until their lover collapses in a moaning exhausted heap, but only after five mind-blowing orgasms in a row. Women "should" be moaning sex goddesses who reach orgasm as their rock hard man thrusts deep inside while he controls their every move and takes them to ecstasy. At least, that's what you might believe if you get your concept of sex from most romantic films.

(And if you do get your ideas about sex from porn films, remember that men with nine inch erections dispassionately using women for their own satisfaction is definitely not normal.)

The reality, of course, as many of us know from our own lovemaking, is that the majority of men come too soon, and many don't know how to prevent premature ejaculation - or they've long since given up trying - while the huge majority of women never come at all during sexual intercourse. You may not believe that;; maybe you even think there's something the matter with you if you're a man who can't make love for ages or you're a woman who can't reach orgasm during intercourse, but research confirms these things are the way sex is for most people.

One survey, by VulvaVelvet, showed that less than one woman in five expects to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse without any additonal stimulation. Other surveys have produced similar results: over 20 years ago, Shere Hite's research showed that only one woman in four of women were able to reach orgasm during intercourse without more stimulation of their clitoris. Most of the rest only came with extra stimulation to the clitoris. Things are no different today.

But perhaps this is missing the point. Maybe we should be asking, "Does this matter?" I suppose the answer is that it matters if a woman wants to enjoy orgasm during intercourse!. If what a woman wishes is for sex to involve more more caressing, oral sex and intimacy before vaginal penetration, and to have an orgasm before penetration, then the answer lies in her man taking a different approach to lovemaking. If, however, what she wants is to have an orgasm during intercourse, then she needs the techniques and sex positions that are more likely to make her come - and a man who can last long enough to make sure she reaches orgasm.

Hmm...now that begins to sound a bit more challenging.

So, here are some sex positions that may help. I'm going to assume that most women need a finger or hand on their clitoris, or some other kind of clitoral stimulation, to reach orgasm, during sex or in any other situation. While some women can attain orgasm from vaginal thrusting alone, the majority do not, and stimulation of the G-spot depends on the man not coming too soon and being unable to thrust against his partner's G spot for long enough..

So here we will offer suggestions as to which sexual positions will make it more likely that a woman reaches orgasm during intercourse, one way or another.

First then is the familiar missionary position. You'll have noticed, no doubt, that normally the penis doesn't reach the clitoris as a man thrusts. But the normal man on top sex position can be modified so that there's more clitoral stimulation, using what's called the Coital Alignment Technique.

After the man enters his partner, face to face, with him on top, he shifts his body higher up, with the result that his penis then enters her vagina from a sharper angle. The bottom of his penis will then be pressed against the area of her clitoris. When the couple are in position, he doesn't thrust. Instead, he pretty much lies on his partner with his body shifted upwards on hers, and the lovers rock their hips against each other until they both reach orgasm.

A couple can also try this the other way round with the woman on top, and this may well be more successful if the man is of large build.

The next likely candidate for achieving orgasm during sex is the woman on top sex position. This can lead to orgasm for a woman since she can change the pace of thrusting, adjust the angle of her body, and move in the exact way to give her the stimulation on her clitoris and vulva most likely to bring her to orgasm.

A similar idea but with the woman facing away from the man is a position called the "Reverse Cowgirl". You can work out the origin of that name for yourselves, I'm certain!

There are two more great sex positions to be aware of if you're into orgasmic intercourse. First of all, if rear entry sex does it for you, there's plenty of opportunity when you're enjoying sex this way for either partner to stimulate her clitoris during sex. Timing it so that she comes before her partner does is crucial, so he may need to slow down or stop thrusting altogether during sex so that she can get near her orgasm. As a couple, you may even be able to reach your orgasms at the same time.

Last but not least, in this roll call of sexual positions to make orgasm easier, is the side by side looking at each other position. This is very romantic than the rear entry position, which some women think is a bit impersonal, and it allows for not only slow thrusting but gentle caressing. Either he or she can easily reach her clitoris, keeping the pace right until it's time to increase it and achieve orgasm.

Rod writes for sex information websites, including [ How To Be Orgasmic! ](http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com> Sex Positions and

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