When you are experiencing difficulty with others ask: "What is the conversation I am having and what impact is it having on this person? How am I allowing them to affect me?" Briefly step outside yourself and observe. Ask yourself if this situation is what you want.

It is certainly okay to express your anger. For example, you could say, "When you did that, I was angry." Conversations are not always perfectly rational. Just remember you are talking to a real person. Conversations need not be devoid of emotion. Emotion adds meaning to conversation. Maintain an awareness of your emotion and the effect it is having on your conversation.

A lack of communication produces a void. People fill in the void with thoughts that assume blame. Insist on communicating with people. Refuse to blame them when they don't communicate with you. Refuse to be disturbed by the opinions of others. Your ability to listen and to express your truth will be influential. Is there someone you are blaming right now? Consider having a conversation.

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