Hello,

This is a sample of the Master of Metaphysics course through the ULC Seminary. This discourse is about forgiveness. This is a concept that we have all heard a lot about throughout our lives. It’s especially prevalent in most religions, but do we really know exactly what it is and how to achieve it?

Forgiveness is, simply put, about letting go. Releasing the wrong done to you, or by you. This is a very simple concept, but often very difficult to achieve. Forgiveness is a choice.

To withhold forgiveness is to choose to remain in pain. Remember, you always have choice.

Forgiveness is for you, not for the other. The person you refuse to forgive. . . owns you! You have all of your energy invested in your anger and resentment, when you could be using it for creating wonderful things for yourself. Instead, you’re letting the other person hold you hostage.

How about if someone has an affair? You can still choose to forgive. You can also leave. Just because you choose to forgive, does not mean you have to stay in the relationship. That is only and always your choice. The choice to forgive is only and always yours.


"To err is human. To forgive, Divine."


Why is it Divine?

Because when you forgive, you take one step closer to God.

Let’s look at what the word is all about.

Forgive: for (in favor of) give (to relinquish, make a present of, donate.)

So forgiving, means that you are ‘in favor of relinquishing’.

Let’s talk about what happens when someone does you wrong. At first, you feel angry, betrayed, insulted, hurt, etc.

Next, you want to stop feeling that way, so you look outward to the person who caused you this pain. You want to yell at them, insult them back, cause them the same sort of pain they caused you.

In other words, Revenge.


This is a normal reaction when you’ve been hurt. Once you’ve moved beyond the initial feeling, you might (and I say, might) consider the concept of forgiving that person.

You might possibly start hearing a dialogue in your head with questions like, "Why should I forgive him/her?" "How can I ever forgive him/her/myself for doing that?"

When you hold a grudge and don’t forgive, the pain just sits there. Like an acid. Burning its way through every aspect of your life.

Holding onto a grudge is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.

When you feel hurt by something, do not forgive for "their" sake. This doesn’t do any good. You must do it for yourself. If they never come to you and ask for your forgiveness, then that is their choice. They do not NEED to be forgiven; it is you who need to forgive.

An example: "When I was sick with cancer, I had an unreasonable anger against my mother. I didn’t want her in the room, in the house or on the planet. To resolve this issue, I sought the assistance of a therapist who did past life regressions. She took me, one step at a time, to a lifetime that had both my mom and me in it. In that lifetime, my mother (in a male body) accidentally killed the father I had in that lifetime. I felt certain (she) did it on purpose and judged her harshly. I got everyone I knew to run her out of town. As it turned out, it was not done on purpose and was my then-father’s time to die. I instantly let it go. Upon returning to see my mom, I felt no anger, resentment or need to punish her. I let go of the grudge, forgave her for her actions and forgave myself for my judgment and what I did about them. We’ve been very close ever since."

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