We’re going to be discussing some exercises throughout this and the next several discourses to help releasing hurts. First though, there are some things you need to know about how it happened in the first place.

By ‘it’, I mean the pain.


Regarding pain, I have some good news and I have some bad news. The news is: You are responsible for the pain.

This is both good news and bad news. It’s bad news because you are party to the pain and the pain only gets in because there is a place inside you that invited it in.

It’s good news because if you let the pain in, then the pain is part of you – YOURS - and… you can only change things that are part of you.

This warrants repeating:

You can only change things that are part of you.


You can’t change other people – you can only change yourself. So if it’s part of you – OWN IT!

The pain gets in because there is, for lack of a better term, a ‘button’ that gets pushed. It’s like being on an elevator. The elevator has a zillion floors and buttons for all of them. When the button gets pushed, it lets you right onto that floor. The same is true with pain, when someone sees, on some level, that the button exists, it’s easy to zero in on it, push it, and just let themselves in.

This is good news and throughout this course, you are going to learn a number of ways to release pain and release the way the pain gets in.

This is what I mean about you being party to the pain. The pain wouldn’t get in if the button wasn’t there. The insult, the hurt, etc. would have no place to go and would pass right through.

This is also true when you have done something you can’t forgive yourself for. You have another button inside you that tells you that you’re bad or that you’re not good enough and that you deserve whatever bad things happen to you.

Buttons like these are what allows you to not like yourself.

(This concept of entry applies more to personal pain, rather than events like 9/11, the Holocaust, Saddam Hussein, etc. The exercises to release the pain, however, will help for these things as well.)

It is possible for EVERYTHING to be forgiven!

Be aware, that

God loves you.

You were created in perfection, 

by perfection, 

for perfection.

Your success is guaranteed.

Now that we know how the pain got in, let’s talk about how to let it out. When you do this, you must remember that once you have forgiven something, you forever give up any right to revenge.

This means that you have given up holding onto it. You don’t get to bring it up later, throw it in anyone’s face, or use it as a bargaining chip in any further communications. Forgiveness helps you move forward. No one benefits from forgiveness more than the one who forgives!

When you think about forgiving, there are a few things to remember that might help. The first is the one we previously mentioned:

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