7. Ask God to help you. Invite God to shine a golden light of forgiveness onto you and the others involved.

Another technique, is called the forgiveness letter.

It was first introduced by John Grey and it involves writing 3 letters.

The first letter is called the ‘feeling’ letter.


Write a letter to the person, place or thing that you are upset with. It can be a letter to a person who offended you, your body that is not doing what you want it to, or your house for burning down. Wherever your pain sits. It doesn’t matter if the recipient of the letter is alive or able to read the letter or not. Just write the letter and let your feelings of hurt, anger, betrayal, disappointment, etc, flow onto the paper.

The second letter is called the ‘response’ letter.


This is a letter that you write next that is from the recipient to you. It’s a letter addressed to you that says exactly the loving words you need/want to hear. It doesn’t matter if they are words that would ever be uttered or not, just write what you would like to hear.

The third letter is called the ‘forgiveness’ letter.


The forgiveness letter is a short letter from you to the offending party. The letter should contain words of forgiveness and love. If you’re not yet ready to do that, then tell them you want to forgive them. Continue writing letters until you are in a space to forgive them.

If you are finding that the anger and hurt and too much to put into words and you’re just too upset to look at the situation yet, then I have one more basic series of exercises to help you release some of your anger and hurt.

Get a dozen eggs. Or maybe two or three dozen. Find an empty field, or alleyway or at least someplace you can hose things off. Hold each egg in your hand and imagine all the hurt, anger, disappointment, frustration, hate, fury, etc, is in that egg.


Then hurl it against something hard.



Hear, feel and experience the beautiful splat sound that it makes on contact.

Allow the emotions you put into that egg to be released from your body and your aura.

Repeat as often as needed.

Your Assignment This Week

Your assignment this week is look at the areas in your life where you are withholding forgiveness.

Do the exercises to release your grudges and give yourself the gift of forgiveness.

Be good to yourself all week.



Rev. Amy Long is the program director for the ULC Seminary. The Universal Life Church Seminary has many different programs on a variety of topics and offers free ordination to anyone who asks.

This course is available through the ULC Seminary at www.ulcseminary.org. This lesson is about forgiveness and is one of 30 lessons of a Master of Metaphysics program. It is written by Rev. Amy Long.


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