Do the research. Add it up. Go with your gut on this.

BTW, look for the ins and outs of flying somewhere to meet an online friend in a future article.

6) If you can't get a home phone number out of them…he or she might be married.

With so many people cutting off the landlines in favor of going mobile only these days, this is far from foolproof. But if seen in combo with other factors, take it into consideration.

7) If you've seen them driving two different vehicles…he or she might be married.

Example: Guy shows up to your first date with an '03 Chevy Silverado pickup. Second date, he's driving an '01 Honda Odyssey minivan. This is not a good sign. Sorry, troops…single people just don't tend to own both a pickup truck and a minivan. Or two different Honda Accords. You get my drift. If you call the guy in our example out on this and he says something to the effect of, "Oh, that's a rental. The truck's in the shop" take into consideration that a) Rentals are usually less than two model years old,… b) are invariably free of visible damage (even "used" car rentals don't have smashed fenders,… c) almost always have the rental company's logo/barcodes on them somewhere., and… d) rentals from dealers/repair shops are typically small econo-boxes or (at best) equivalent to what the customer is driving. The rental excuse will either hold water, or it won't.

Note, however, that if a guy in particular has two dissimilar vehicles it's not necessarily a bad sign. Lot's of guys do. For example, if he has a pickup truck one day and a Porsche the next, that's not what we are talking about here. Oh…and more single guys have "family" type cars/minivans than you think. That alone isn't a biggee.

8) If he or she has tan lines on his or her left ring finger…he or she might be married.

Yep, this is the classic stereotype. It's obvious, but it still deserves mention. People still try to get away with this.

9) If he or she is "legally separated"…he or she might be married.

Scratch "might be"…he or she is married. This scenario deserves careful research and lots of questions. Also, be advised that in some states (e.g. here in TX) there isn't even such a thing as "legal separation". Being involved with someone who is "separated" may mean the spouse (and that's what that other person is, frankly) may not exactly feel the same way or be on the same page as your date. Proceed with caution-after all, there's already an admission going on here that s/he's married! Guys, this is a good way to get shot at. Think about it.

10) If the divorce "is going to be final any day now"…he or she might be married.

This goes hand-in-hand with the point above…maybe literally. You have an admission from your date that s/he is married, so almost any excuse goes, doesn't it? For what it's worth, I really hope that if you are intelligent enough to read English you would never be willing to believe that your date is going to "get around to leaving" his or her spouse sometime "soon". Please.

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