You don't need a 10-week crash course from Ms. Manners to use proper etiquette when writing a thank-you note. As the old saying goes, a little common sense goes a long way. Here are five every-day tips to remember for showing appreciation.

1. Show some effort.

Always handwrite your note of appreciation, don't print it out from your computer. Even if you're handwriting is "horrendous", slow down and make an effort to write legibly for this occasion. Don't use a pre-printed or pre-worded greeting card, unless you're significantly adding to the message in your own handwriting. The extra time you take will be appreciated by the person you are thanking. After all, they went out of their way to do something for you, how you choose to express your appreciation can communicate to them that you care about them or give the impression that you don't care. Be sure to write at least three sentences in the body of your note. It doesn't have to be a novel.

2. Make it personal but don't talk about yourself.

In coming up with what to say, reference the gift or what they did for you. Even if you didn't particularly like the gift, say something descriptive about it instead of avoiding the subject. You don't have to lie, just be sure to recognize the importance of the gift -- like it or not. And don't use the thank you note as a gossip column or go into a long tirade about your bad hair day and the flat tire you got on the way to work. Don't say anything negative -- EVER -- even if you try to follow it by adding a "just kidding" and a smiley face. Your recipient may not get the joke, and in any case, a thank you note is not the proper occasion to showcase your special brand of sarcastic humor.

3. Better now than never.

Thank you's should be written "as quickly as possible". So what exactly does that mean? For most occasions such as dinner parties and birthday gifts, that means roughly 7 to 14 days. Weddings and baby showers generally command a little more slack, perhaps 2 months or so, but if you can, make life easier and tackle it one thank-you at a time as gifts come in. That means if you receive a wedding gift delivered to your house two weeks before a wedding, put a thank you note in the mail within the next two days. Then cross it off your to-do list! Regardless of the situation, sooner really is better. However even if it's been a year and you think it's too late, go ahead and write that note of appreciation. Maybe the person had forgotten about it – chances are they didn't forget. If you send a thank-you now, he or she will at least know that not only did you think of them when you received the gift, but you thought of them now, even after all this time, and you took the time to thank them.

4. Every deed deserves its own recognition.

Would you even think of thanking your best friend for a birthday present by writing something like: "Thank you for cute the sweater. You are so thoughtful! And thank you for all the gifts I know you will give every year for my birthday since we are BFF"? Of course not! Don't do the same thing retroactively by sending one combined thank you note for the last three gifts you received from somebody. In this case, it is totally NOT okay to "kill two birds with one stone." Can you imagine, "Hey Grandma, thank you for little Johnny's christening present and oh yeah I almost forgot to thank you for the wedding gift. I use the blender every day. And you know what, come to think of it, thanks for the money you sent me for my birthday. You really are a great grandma!" Sound ridiculous? You will too if you recognize separate acts of generosity with one stingy act of faux gratitude.

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