First Date Talk

Ever go on a first date and then had nothing to say? That can be a big drawback because silence and awkward moments will NOT help you get a second date.

That's why planning for your first date talk in advance is a good practice. It helps to stop your mind from drawing a blank, your words coming out wrong and stuttering. And when you can eliminate those ailments you should feel much less anxious.

Now, if you know you are meeting a woman, whether it's for a date, or at work or at the gym or where ever, then you can gain the greatest advantage by pre-planning your conversations in advance.

Before you meet up, it's a good idea to be prepared and have lots of stuff to talk about (this does not mean you have to be blabbing all the time, listening can do wonders).

Also, try not to stall in your approach because the longer you leave your approach and stand around admiring her or allowing nasty thoughts to enter your mind, the more anxious you will be when you finally approach her.

So you want to make sure the moment you see her, you walk straight up to her and greet her. That way you don't give your mind a chance to be negative or anxious.

When you do approach her, it's very important to make eye contact. I know some people don't make eye contact because they're shy or anxious.

However, planning your first date talk, getting out the pen and paper and thinking about what you will say, starting with your greeting, reduces the anxiety.

Depending on how well you know this woman, will impact on how you will greet her. But it's always my policy to try coming up with something creative if I can. It's good to keep it interesting, unique.

Once you have sorted your greeting (side note: you could throw in a wink, or wiggle your eyebrows, this denotes how confident you are to her - women love confidence), then work out a few other things you might want to ask her.

Write out a few questions that you think might spark her interest, and write out a story or two about yourself that you would like to share with her.

You don't have to write it down if you don't want to, you can just run it over in your mind. But writing it out and then reading and re-reading it, is actually proven to help you remember more and imprint it into your mind. You are much less likely to forget then.

If you are unsure of what stories you would like to tell, I can give you a few pointers to get you on your way. I usually stick with something that's a little humorous, even if it's a little embarrassing on my side of the fence.

Stories can trigger a memory in the listener of similar value and encourage them to tell a story on similar lines.

Questions will also give you a good understanding and feel for the woman that you want to get to know. And people truly love talking about themselves.

Personally I think speaking about the weather is a bad topic. It's usually what people ask or talk on when they can't think of anything else to say. Besides it's a little over used.

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