Getting better Results from your dating ad
Placing your dating ad shouldn't be done off the cuff but should be placed with a clear understanding of what response you intend to receive.
Successful online dating starts with the first moment someone sees your profile. It's the most important moment in online dating and first impressions last.
Each ad should be well thought out and reflect just what you are seeking. Be honest and straight-forward. Don't lie to site members and pretend that you are someone that you are not, because someone looking for who you really are will miss you! This wastes your time and everyone else's. It also leads to miss trust and leaves a 'bad taste' in everyone's mouth.
You have heard it before and it's true, a picture is worth a thousand words. The ads of people who submit pictures with their profiles, get approximately 12 times more hits, than those without pictures. You do not have to submit a picture with your ad, but it is strongly advised to worth considering. At Attractive parents, we give you the opportunity to upload several large images and one preview image with your ad.
When you receive a response to your ad, it is either going to spark your interest, or no interest to you at all. Even if the e-mail doesn't light your fire, it is always common courtesy to send a response, even if it is to say Thanks, but no thanks!. After all, this person was interested enough to send you an email, so take it as a compliment and send back an acknowledgement that the email was received. If the email does light your fire, then respond to it and enjoy someone new!
Responding to an AdWhen you are searching our database, you need to realize that not everyone will be responding and not everyone will be interested in what you have to offer. So it is a good idea to respond to more than one ad at once. There can be a certain feeling out process in the beginning, to make sure this is a right rendezvous for all parties. While it can work, don't go overboard with your first email! Unless specifically asked, don't go into long tirades about what a good lover you are and what you will do with him/her/them when you meet, and how many partners you have had in the past. Try and introduce yourself and let the advertisers know a little bit about you. Just as someone putting in an ad should submit a picture, so should you send a picture when you respond to the ad.
Once you receive a response to your email it is time to start giving more information. This may be a good time to talk on the phone to get a better feel for the person. Then, when you feel comfortable, it is time for the meeting.
Meeting your DateThe first meeting is a big step. This should be fun, but also bear in mind that safety is an issue. That is why we recommend that the initial meeting be at a public place and either during the lunch hour or right after work. If things go well, you can arrange for an immediate, more intimate setting, or you can schedule one at a more convenient time and place.
Common CourtesyThis should be the norm, but unfortunately this sometimes gets lost in the shuffle. The first thing to remember is that NO MEANS NO. Just because you meet doesn't not mean that he/she/they have to like you and want to take things further. Things may change after a face-to-face meeting, so if the other party wants to break it off, do so. This is not a personal insult. Just smile, accept it and go on to the next one. Remember they where there is good, there is better. They may have just missed out on the time of their lives.
If you are invited to the other party's home, remember that you are a guest! You don't live there! Dress appropriately for the situation, be courteous and bring a gift. Don't put your feet up on the coffee table, etc. Just because you are entering into a possible relationship doesn't mean you have to be an idiot. Good manners go a very long way in breaking through those first-time jitters. If you respect the other party, just as you would at work, school or play, you will do fine, and you will never lack new dating opportunities. Word gets around, and the fools suffer while the good ones are always in high demand!