Irritating traits are not your spouse’s problem, but yours. It is time to look at your sensitivity to what you view as imperfection and not burden your spouse with your intolerances. You have flaws too, and you want your spouse to ignore and see past them and praise you for all your wonderful qualities. Well, give your spouse the same treatment you expect. Even a great masterpiece has flaws in it. A spouse is obligated through loyalty to only praise and never criticize their eternal lover. Never ever point out your spouse’s flaws to them or anyone else. Your spouse deserves your unmitigated respect and consideration.

If you confirm flaws that are incompatible with a deepening and secure marital life it is better to end your marriage as soon as possible. Everyone will be better off. It is also best to be completely honest and up front during this process (use a mediator that is a business lawyer or businessman). Remember love and passion in marriage will not protect your children from the suffering that comes from devastating flaws.

If you have children and are reading this anyway I must tell you unless your spouse is physically endangering your children it is better to work around almost anything, so your kids will have a complete home life. Divorce is devastating to children for many reasons. There is almost always a way to work around almost any flaw in a way that can actually create more harmony and open the door to more love.

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