Have you just recently experienced a break up, and you're wondering "how can you get your ex back?" You may want to win your ex back right away, and this is a common emotion that everyone experiences.

You may be in an emotionally depressed state, and you may encounter feelings of confusion. You may feel like calling your ex and begging him or her to come to back to you instantly. But is this really going to improve the situation? It is probably going to make your situation worse. Driving your ex further and further away from you.

What you should actually do at this point is the opposite of what you are feeling. Do you have the urge to call your ex? Don't do it! Do you feel like crying all day long and not leaving the house? Don't! Follow these 3 basic steps instead, and you will own the answer to the age old question, "How do I win my ex back?"

1 - Accept the Break Up!

First off, you need to acknowledge and accept the break up. Tell your ex that you are okay with it and you understand it. You will reduce a large amount of the tension and eliminate the stress that you are both feeling. Your ex will want to think about the relationship. This will give you time to reflect on the relationship as well. Your ex will find a way to get back with you when he or she realizes they still love you.

2 - Do not contact your ex!

Make an effort to not contact your ex right now. Cut off communication with him or her so that you both have some "time to think". This may go against your instincts, but by cutting off communication you are indicating that you have moved on and that you are doing just fine.

Thus allowing he or she to think about the value of your relationship. How they feel about it. This will also give them time to miss you again. When you separate yourself from your ex, it gives you a chance to relax your nerves. This will be the best time for you ex to appreciate how important you were to them.

3 - Plan Ahead for the Get Together

Once you have finished steps 1 and 2, you can start planning when you will meet, where you will meet, and what will be said when you meet with them again. If you plane the when, where and what, then you will have an idea about how your ex feels about you. Furthermore, you will know if there is any chance you will get back together with your ex.

KJ Jackson