Rejection is such a hard emotion to deal with. Wanting, and needing, to 'get my ex back' is a emotional and psychological minefield. The roller coaster of feelings are so strong that you really can begin to feel like it is the end of the world for you. Many of the feelings that we can associate with rejection have very strong links to the emotions that are associated with the death of a loved one. Rejection, being dropped, by a loved one will feel just as strong as losing a loved one. Dealing with rejection has many of the attributes that dealing with loss has.
There are a few very important things that you must do to move on and prepare for healing or these feelings will just continue to 'eat you up' inside. here are the important steps to fixing the pain these emotions bring before they consume any chance you have to get your partner back.
Start by actually deciding if you want to 'get my ex back'. The emotional loss can blind your objectivity and you may not realize that getting back is actually a bad move for you. If you can clearly decide that 'this is the one' then you are ready to start acting as you should to act to get him or her back in your life.
Avoid contacting your ex during this period. they must realize that they miss YOU or any plan you have will be useless. Don't phone or write to them for at least 2 weeks and use this time to heal some of those feelings of loss.
Next you next to increase your confidence by getting out more. Begin by just going for a coffee with a friend and start to engage with the opposite sex bit by bit to allow your conversational confidence return. You don't want to be flirting just try and talk to people sociably. get out and meet and interact with strangers. Begin to feel you are a human again. Remember there was a reason someone loved you. Find that something again.
Once you do this you are ready to get your ex back. You'll be stronger emotionally and prepared to act rationally. You need a rational proven strategy but that is no use if you are still emotionally stressed.
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