Stupidity and Insecurity

Stupidity, insecurity and a continuous validation seeking behavior.Guys tend to view women who are too needy as daughters. They feel as though they need to take on a Father-like role.

To a lot of guys (for obvious reasons) that is unattractive. If you're an overly emotional type of woman and tend to pass that emotional burden onto your boyfriend, he may have called it quits for that very reason. The emotional charge could have become too much for him to handle.

Personally, I have broken up with a woman for this very reason. She claimed to be strong willed and independent (and at first she was) but was not ready to hear, telling me she loved me WAY too soon, etc. I got the feeling that there really was not anything particular about me at all. She chose me not for me but because she was desperate to be loved by another person. It did not matter who that "other" person was: so long as he loved her back. I simply could not be that person so soon and it really turned me off.

Being Too Rigid & Cold

No man wants to be with a woman who is "tougher" than he is. It's an ego thing and there is no avoiding it. It's just how men are hard coded. If a woman seeks to dominate her man, he will become extremely defensive. To many, many men (myself included) an overly tough, rigid woman is tremendously unattractive.When you emasculate a man, not only will he resent you for it, but you will also lose any and all attraction for him.Women, much like men, do not want to be with somebody they have complete and total control over.

I'm NOT suggesting you become a welcome mat. No woman wants to become that and very few men want to be around one (long term). You simply need to recognize that when you try and command your man in any way, this really pushes him away. It turns him off on a deep

emotional level. It directly challenges his masculinity. Men are hard wired to be competitive - to be the best - to be the "alpha male".

The most attractive woman is a woman who is independent, yet has a soft vulnerable side that needs "protecting". Your man wants to protect you. On a deep psychological level, he is hard wired to instinctively defend the woman he chooses as a long term mate. It's been like this throughout all of human creation/evolution (depending on your particular views).As you can probably tell by now, there is a clear-cut correspondence to be had when it comes to being too vulnerable (needy) and too tough and rigid. Find and strike this balance and your man will melt in your arms.

Needless to say, to discover the best ways to get over a breakup you need to know why it happened.