When a relationship finishes, and you're not the one who finished it, then for you to get over them fast becomes very important. It's also one of the most difficult parts. Getting over someone is easier said than done. If you've been together for a long time it's much much harder.

It may be easier to get over a short term relationship. But a long term relationship makes it hard, almost impossible, to get over them at all, let alone get over them quickly. Fortunately there are a few things you can do to help this process along.

When you are agonising on how to get over them, sit in a chair or room where you feel a strong sense of them. Remove anything that reminds you of them. If you look at something and their image comes to mind, get rid of it.

This is a difficult task, but every small reminder should be removed. Some things are just not removable, a pet bought together for instance. But anything they bought for you that can be taken out of view will help you an awful lot.

If you have a lot of stuff that you shared, you probably can't get rid of it without making your rooms bare. But if you do have a lot of stuff, remove the items that really shout their name when you look at them. Each item removed makes it that little bit easier to get through the day.

Maybe you both chose the new couch, but it's the scatter cushions that really remind you of them. Or maybe they bought you a gift that is on display right there, in front of you. Either of these can make your heart sink when you look at them. Take these things and put them away, out of sight for a while. You really will find it easier on yourself.

When you are having a particularly hard day, and you can't seem to get a great memory out of your head, think of their bad qualities. Did they have an annoying habit that really ticked you off? Be careful here though, of all the techniques of getting over someone, this one will have you thinking of them a lot.

Thinking bad thoughts about them can easily slip into thoughts of longing and missing them again. So be sure you are ready for this step. Think of the things you disliked the most. If you can't think of any, just move on from this step. But most of us can come up with a long list of pet hates about someone. Especially if they were the ones who finished the relationship!

A good way to get over them is to start dating someone. Again this is far easier said than done. Many people are sure they still love their ex and are just not ready to date yet. That's cool but you can still date other people. Your ex isn't currently about and no one says you have to fall in love again anytime soon.

Going out dating or even just with friends isn't a method to get over someone, but it will stop you feeling sorry for yourself while you try to get over them.