Everyone will experience at least one breakup in their life...maybe two...and when that happens you will have to decide if it is really over or if it is worth fighting for. Do you want your ex back?? Or do you want to move on and call it quits? The truth of the matter is that many relationships are fixable....that if you know the steps and have a plan you can get back with your ex. All you need is the desire to get back with your ex and a doable plan to make it happen. This article will give you a plan for getting your ex back.

The first step in learning how to get an ex back is to analyze exactly why your relationship ended in the first place. Think about each event and conversation that led to your breakup. What happened and why?? Although you cannot go back and change what happened, you can learn from your mistakes and grow from them.

If the breakup was over one specific event then think about what led up to that event happening and make amends or take steps to make it right. If it was a lot of little things that allowed you to grow apart then think about how those things can pull you back together. Make a lot of little gestures that show you get it and take responsibility for you part in the breakup.

Once you are taking steps to repair your part of the breakup be sure to go slowly and not come off as desperate or needy. Obviously if you are taking steps to get back with your ex then you are feeling lonely and are really missing them, but you can't let those feelings show. You need to stay strong and stay focused on your desired outcome which is winning your ex back.

When your ex sees that you are doing well and moving forward you will be more desirable. Your ex will then make choices that are not based on guilt or feeling sorry for you. You do not want your ex to feel sorry for you.

It might be hard to remain focused and your emotions might tell you to hurt your ex or try to make them jealous. This would be a huge mistake. Even though all of your actions are designed to get your ex back, they have to happen independent of that ever actually happening.

To truly know that you want your ex back you have to be willing to accept whatever the outcome is. Getting with someone else will not only backfire because you are pulling an innocent person into your life, but your ex might actually think you have moved on and give your ex reason to move on.

Just being strong and showing your ex that you are a good person who misses you but is strong and solid emotionally will make you desirable and you will be one step closer to winning back your ex.