My Dear Lover,

In most of the long distance relationships the time you are apart is bigger than the time you are together, and probably you will be between being together and being apart more than once in your distance relationship.

And I can tell you, because I have been there more than once, that the experience of being apart after being together, is one of the most difficult periods in a long distance relationship. It make us feel so horrible, that sometimes we wonder "what is wrong with me? Why do I feel like this?".

Each time we go apart again, mainly three emotional phases happens (Protest, Depression and Detachment).

While you were together, you were inseparable, took long walks together and made all moments count, but now is arriving the time your beloved as to go away.

It's like something triggers inside you, that say that your beloved is leaving, and you start the first phase, the Protest.

You fight against the separation in all the ways you can.

You feel terrible, you cry without control, some will be angry with "life", or even with their beloved, some will hold and kiss each other like you will never see each other again.

And even at the last moment, when you are at airport, you will ignore the last calling of the departure, until you finally realize your beloved really have to leave. Did you ever did this? I did!

But no matter how much you protest to prevent the separation, you are apart again.

Now comes the second emotional phase of separation, the Depression.

You can't stop crying, you miss your beloved like hell, you can't sleep, can't eat, lose interest for things, you can't concentrate in anything, and all you want is to be together with your beloved all time. And that is natural reaction when you love somebody so much.

This phase of depression and loneliness can last only some minutes, but in most cases it will last for several days.

Finally comes the last phase, the Detachment.

You have to continue with your life, even being apart from your beloved, and being depressed won't bring your beloved back.

And finally the day that you will be together again arrives, and probably, you will have to go throughout the phases of separation again and again!

So now that you understand "what's wrong with you?" each time you have to go through the process of separation, does it means that you can't do nothing about it?

No, no and no, keep reading and I will show you my advices.

But remember, it's a fact that no matter how many times you go by the experience of separation again and again, nothing eliminates this three phases. The only thing you can do is to realize their existence, understand each phase, and take action so you can make this experience more "soft".

But do you want to know something very interesting?

It is not only me and you and all the people that are living a Long Distance Relationship, that goes by the Protest, Depression and Detachment emotional phases, each time we go apart again.

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