Why Setting Goals Don’t Work!

Most people would agree that individual beliefs and values influence and determine the outcome of any situation or experience in our lives. That’s why a group of people can go through similar experiences and yet individually come away with totally different results. Question!!! "When do most people think about setting goals?" It’s usually done as a new year’s resolution at a party over a drink or two, or when you need to slim down for the summer to fit into that new bikini you’re planning to buy or on some other whim. When done in such a manner the goals set tend to be unrealistic and unattainable? No real thought or planning has gone into it, and in reality, you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment and failure.

When this happens of course you say to yourself. "See I knew that goals don’t work!!" The truth of the matter is that there is a specific formula needed to create great goals that work. Only 20% of the reasons why you’re not achieving your goals are on the outside. That means 80% of the reasons why you’re not reaching your goals is on the inside. If you are seriously looking for change in whatever area in life you are unhappy about always start with yourself.

Einstein said "We are all boxed in by the boundary conditions of our own thinking" Our values and beliefs are created subconsciously through the conditionings we received in our early informative years through our parents, education, religion, schooling and work ect. When we reach our teens and into adulthood, we conveniently begin to pigeon hole meanings and reasons to life’s experiences. Subconsciously we create own internal rule book on how we believe we should be and on how we perceive things. Through habitual limiting beliefs and thought processes we set an invisible wall that limits what we allow ourselves to experience and feel. This then becomes our perceived reality of the world. To change your internal representation of your individual world, we must begin to challenge and review:

• You’re Beliefs: Beliefs from the parameters of what you will and will not allow in your life. They make up the boundary conditions of your thinking. Limiting beliefs narrow and restrict your possible experiences; however, transformed beliefs can expand your individual potential and expand what you allow yourself to experience.

• You’re Values: Values represent what is important to you, ideas that guide your life and represent what you stand for, like family, happiness, stability, love, money, recognition ect. Individual experiences will vary based on your range of values. Someone who values wealth will invest time and effort in that area, and there life will reflect that. If that same person does not value honesty, then the route to wealth will be very different from someone who values honesty.

There have been three major turning points in my life:

The first was when I discovered that if I wanted anything to change it was up to me. This world doesn’t owe me any favors or free hand outs. I am responsible for my life, and for everything that’s happened to me. At some level, we have chosen everything that happens in our experience, whether consciously or unconsciously, for a grander purpose. Don't ask, "Why did I create this?' Instead, ask yourself, "How did I create this reality and what do I want to create instead?"Responsibility means "If it’s to be it’s up to me" After you accept complete responsibility, your whole life begins to change.

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