Are you one of those women saying," I want my husband back" as you see your marriage starting to fail? It can slowly happen without you knowing it until one day you wake up and realize your marriage is about to end.

If you want your marriage to last and not collapse into a nasty divorce, then it is your duty to try as hard as you can to keep it going. To win husband back, here are 5 steps that you can take to revitalize your marriage:

1) Understand this is a team effort:

I hear you saying, "I want my husband back!", but what you must know is that it was not you, and it was not just him that let the marriage crumble. You are both responsible for making it work. So if you are prepared to help improve the marriage, then so should your husband.

2) One person is not to blame:

A relationship does not just consist of one person. It took both of you to make it happen in the first place, and so both of you are responsible for making it last.

So do not put unnecessary pressure neither on yourself nor on your husband. Just do your bit to get your husband back, and encourage him to do his.

3) Identify what makes you a good couple:

You need to take an objective look at your life and how the marriage fits in with what you had in mind. What is it that brought you two together, and what keeps you determined to make it last? Have a look at what makes your husband special to you? And ask him what attracts him to you. If the passion is still there, "I want my husband back" will be easy since the marriage still fits in with your life's goals.

4) Use that common ground to your advantage:

Once you have realized what exactly it is that makes you happy, try see how you can use that common ground to your advantage. If something makes both of you equally happy, then try spend time doing that activity together.

Let it seem like a impulsive thought on how to get husband back and aim to make it seem like it is his vision. Try and create some enthusiasm about it. Don't go over board with the thrill, though.

5) State your opinion to him:

When you are doing the things that the both of you enjoy, let him grasp how exceptional you think he is and how much you appreciate him. Let him identify that you wish for what you used to enjoy. Let him identify how you feel.

It easier for both of you to be open about your feelings when you are relaxed and enjoying yourselves. Do not hold back from saying, "I want my husband back", as you may find you feels the same about you.

Finally - What you need to come to terms with is that the marriage may never be what it once was - times change and so people. And even if you do win husband back, the marriage may never be its best.

You ought to consider, however, that what you saw as the best part of your relationship doesn't have to be the all time climax. The best in existence is still to occur if you are prepared to do the labor that you ought to do. Tell yourself, "I want my husband back, but I would like the marriage back stronger than before" and then work to make it materialize.