Even if you are intrigued and interested in dirty talking, getting started can be a real problem. Not being vocal about sex is a taboo that is deeply ingrained in many of us. This can be difficult to get over; especially if you are not sure about your partner’s position on dirty talking.

Putting this one doubt, about how your partner will react to dirty talking, to rest will make it much easier to start. You can either ask him about how he feels or you’re your own conclusions based on observing his reactions to dirty taking in movies and so on. Once you have settled this issue, you will have a lot more confidence to start.

Once you are sure he likes dirty talking, go slow to begin with. Pick up the clues as you go along. Be kind to yourself and learn to laugh and enjoy yourself even if you are a little clumsy at times.

* Start with compliments and heart felt praise. Making it sound sexy depends on how you put it.

* Tell him "You look hot" and he will get a kick out of it. Instead, tell him "You look so hot, I am beginning to melt" when you are looking into his eyes and running your fingers lightly up his thigh, and you have grabbed his attention real hard!

* When you dirty talk you want to let him know how much he turns you on; how much you want him and just how he makes you feel. Making him feel adored and wanted is a powerful bonding factor.

* If you catch him unawares with erotic verbal signals at odd times of the day, he will be thinking of you and waiting for the moment when he will be able to come back to you again.

* Getting your lover to participate and open up his fantasies to you is simple too. Begin by asking questions that he can answer with a "yes" or "no". When dirty talk is shared and enjoyed together, you can explore its full potential and bring in a healthy openness into your relationship.

You should both agree on not using words or scenarios that may be offensive to each other. It is important to understand that fantasy is fantasy. Most people never want to enact those fantasies in real life. However, unless you are absolutely sure you will not be misunderstood, be cautious about sharing fantasies about group sex, same sex, sex with strangers, etc. Such fantasies can be extremely erotic to share, but only if your partner finds them so too and completely understands you.

Safe dirty talking is telling him what you want him to do, what you want to do to him, asking him if he likes what you are doing and so on. Start with this and work in more elements as you go along.