There is a great life that lies head after divorce. You will be able to move on with your life. You can get up and move to a new place and start a completely new life. Some people will do just that. They will change jobs, they will refinance, and they will begin to date again. Just because the divorce is done and is final, this doesn't mean that you have gone through all the steps. You still have to pick up the pieces and try to move on. It's hard for many to move on because they have spent so much time with that person and it can be hard to break up someone who doesn't want to. There are a lot of feelings that you will go through, however you will find that there is a lot of hope that lies in the bounds of the aftermath.
After the divorce you have refinanced and everything is done and over. You don't have a mortgage, you may not have a car payment, you may not have anything to your name. This is a great opportunity to relocate. You don't have to go to another state, but even another county would be a huge change for you. You will have to find a way to get back in the game.
The first step to rebuilding after moving is to find a new job. You may want to find a job that allows you to work more because now you don't have to worry about sharing your time with your wife, or you may decide that you don't need a high paying job anymore because you don't the bills or family to support. You can adjust to your new living by going up or standing back from employment. You can purchase a new home and start there, or you can just not make any commitments and rent. Your like is completely up to you.
It may be a long way to come back once you have been knocked down by a divorce. You may have to start from nothing. You will have new views, new goals, a new life. You can leave everything behind or you can build yourself back up. Some people just find it easier to leave everything than truly deal with anything. It is a hassle to go through a divorce and the alimony can make you need to get another job. You will find that there are so many things in a divorce that can cause you to take up drinking, but then there are so many more things that you can do to make things better. You can make things better by going for an important job that you didn't want to take because of your family. You have nothing holding you back. You can re-do everything your way. You don't have to worry about pleasing anyone but yourself.
You are completely independent. That is one good thing about divorce. It can also be scary. If you feel like you can't stand on your own, you can ease your way into being independent. You can move in with some friends, you can take a less demanding job, you can purchase a lease for an apartment, whether than purchase a home. You don't have to make any commitments to anything. Once you feel like you can get back in the game you can begin to make commitments like buying a house, or asking someone on a date. It's a slow progression back.
Once you have relocated you can spend your time like you wish and you can change anything in your life. You should try to be independent because you will make the progression back quickly. You can be okay sooner than later.