Dealing with the death of a loved one is one of the hardest challenges most of us will ever face. Regardless of our relationship with the person, the severity of the illness, or age, it is very, very hard to lose someone.

We are often surprised with the many emotions and life changes that ensue. We are surprised at the conflicting feelings that shift from day to day. And often, have a hard time moving ahead. It is very helpful to have some knowledge related to the grieving process and how to hang in there.

1. First of all, know that you will experience a wide range of emotions that will often make you feel as if you are out of control. Let them happen -- this is normal.

2. Also know, that there is no timetable for grief -- each of us has our own and we need to take all the time we need.

3. Find a person that you are comfortable with sharing what you are feeling and vent with them. You will find that it feels good to have someone to listen to you.

4. There is no fast way to go through the pain of loss. And there is pain that you feel both emotionally and physically. You must go right through the middle in order to come out the other side of this process. Whatever works for you is okay. Each of us requires different approaches.

5. Some people look to the communication process of writing a journal or even developing a blog site for catharsis.

6. Other people look for meaningful ways to memorialize their loved one with the planting of a tree, a special honor, or gifting in memory.

7. Consider joining a support group where other people are dealing with loss and can offer unique support because they are in a similar life stage.

8. It can also be comforting to use your religious affiliation as a pathway to comforting yourself -- regardless if you have been active in the past.

9. Carrying a treasured picture or special words in a piece of jewelry or book can help link you to the memory of your loved one as you move forward into life.

10. Finally, don't feel guilty if you are starting to laugh again, feel joy, or smile with pleasure over new things. You are not abandoning the love and memories and support from someone you have lost, but integrating them into who you are right now.