After their parent's divorce, children may feel a sense of hopelessness and despair. The comforting idea of their parents remaining together forever is stripped away from them, making them feel uncomfortable and disheartened at the idea of living with either one parent or the other.
Although children may feel as if this surviving their parent's divorce is impossible, the truth of the matter is that there's always hope for the times ahead.
One important thing to teach children of divorced parents is that the divorce was not the child's fault.
Often times, children feel guilt of the divorce in their flawed perceptions to the cause of such an event. The child may feel as if their parent's marriage was their responsibility, and that the ultimate decision for their separation was something that they may have done.
It is very important that all children understand the concepts behind their parent's divorce so that this misconception is avoided. It is also important that children of divorced parents get involved with the world around them.
Being active and participating in events through school, church, and the community help to replace some of the stress of having divorced parents with other activities to keep them busy. This helps them to establish a sense of identity through the chaos of their parents separating, gain a personal sense of accomplishment, develop self-esteem, and occasionally, make some friends and have fun.
No matter the age of the child, it is important that they grow up with a positive self-image. Often times, children of divorced parents compare themselves to their peers who live in a two parent household.
Helping a child find their passions and cultivate their interests for certain subjects will help them to establish a niche in the world that they can become involved in. Opportunities to succeed in the activities that they love and the support to continue persevering will help these children to grow and mature as people.
It is important to make sure that children of divorced parents still feel as if they have a place in the world. Give them opportunities to succeed and they will undoubtedly shine!