It’s not easy experiencing a break up. There have been a lot of feeling hurt and words that should have been left unsaid. We are not perfect, a fact that you should always think about. Thus finding a perfect partner is an idealistic view in life because however hard you try you wouldn’t find anybody close to being perfect. With that said, another fact to bear in mind is that people make mistakes. Mistakes are made to acts as lessons so that it would be avoided in the future. When two people break up their relationship, it’s because of what the two of them did in the relationship. When you think of ways on how to get back with your ex means that you have realized the facts specified above.
Before getting back with your ex you must first look into the mistake that you have done inside the relationship and realizing that you are indeed the person to blame for that. It is easy to finger point the other person, but admitting your mistakes would be hard. So take time to ponder and grasp the whole thought that you contributed to the reason that ended your relationship. Own your mistakes and never sugar coat it to satisfy your ego. Don’t make excuses and treat yourself as if you’re any better than your ex. Without the admission of your mistakes, reconciliations wouldn’t be as effective as it should be. Both of you are human, so there should be space for mistakes, forgiveness and lessons from the experience.
When you decide that you want your ex partner back, you must convey the message that you want them in your life again. You must convey the message clearly. Tell them how special they are and how you would want them in your life again. Don’t treat them like they are worthless, don’t insult them or pester them with the mistakes that they have made. That contradicts what you would want to happen. They have to see that you are willing to compromise and can forgive and accept the faults that they have.
Isn’t that what most people want? To be accepted in spite their faults and to be loved unconditionally. To make someone feel special is to make them feel that they are the reason that you are thankful of the relationship. A relationship wouldn’t grow and strengthen without the mistakes made. You two must get through it together to test your dedication and love for each other. Just remember that your both human, making mistakes is a human action and being mad but learning to forgive is a human reaction.