It Can Be Done

So you dumped your girlfriend and now you regret it and you want her back. Getting your now ex girlfriend back after you have dumped her is difficult, just imagine how you would feel, but it can be done.

Not only do you have the embarrassment of having to apologize, but you almost have to start from scratch again on the relationship.

The Relationship

Before you do anything there is one very important thing to think about. If you dumped your girlfriend because she was abusive, could not stop cheating, or another major fault, you have to ask yourself why would you want her back.

Do you really want to go back to a situation like that? Things like this are not your fault, the problems are with her and she is not likely to change.

If you had a decent relationship the chances are that the two of you still have feelings for each other. You may want her back after you have dumped your girlfriend, but it has to be clear that you’re happy to try again, and are not simply reacting to the bad feeling about the way you treated her.

Take Your Lumps

Without a doubt you have really hurt her feelings, and her pride too, and she’s going to exact some measure of payback for that. How would you feel if you were in her place, it’s really hard to argue against her feeling that way.

A dumped girlfriend is likely out to make you jump through a few hoops before she takes you back, even if she desperately wants you back, she will not show that, and you are going to have to take your lumps in this situation.

You were in the wrong and will have to take responsibility for what you have done. If she needs you to explain what you did and why you did it, then you better take some time to figure it out in your own head, and be sincere when you sit down to explain it to her.

She will need an apology and a genuine promise from you that you will never do it again, and you are going to have to do just that. There also may be some other things you have to do, but you need to be careful here.

Watch Your Step

What you must guard against in a situation where you were clearly in the wrong and you over reacted, is that you don’t become her punching bag.

She may want to use you to take out all of her frustrations and anger just because she knows she can, even though she may have no intention of getting back together.

Getting Real Help

You need to be an understanding and apologetic guy, but you also do not want to be a doormat, so where do you go from here? You need a realistic plan to rebuild your relationship and avoid the pitfalls associated with this particular situation.

There is nothing wrong with seeking help and guidance, in fact there are special relationship manuals written exactly for this problem and how to solve it.

Discover how thousands men who have dumped their girlfriend and want her back just like you, have learned how to actually do it.