When you attend a coupleís 50th wedding anniversary, you tend to look at them with awe. How does a couple live together for that long and look so happy about it. Well the answer is simply this Ė they may not always have been happy, but they have tried to resolve their problems and make a success of their marriage. A divorce has become a common solution to marital problems. While some marriages are beyond saving, most can be resolved with a little patience.
Some of these solutions may sound hackneyed to you but if you work at them, they are bound to help stop a divorce. For starters communication, try and amicably reach an agreement that you will work towards communicating with each other positively. Be receptive to the other personís opinion and try and view things from their perspective. This however does not mean that you be submissive to any opinion. Communication is a two-way process. There is a bit of give and take. While you may not really be in the mood of giving, if it helps save a marriage you should try and keep an open mind.
Saving a marriage is also about putting away past differences and biases. Try and look at your relationship as one of equals. This means that each one is entitled to an opinion and the right to justify or defend that opinion. Keep the field open in terms of not agreeing with your spouse. But at the same time, agree not let those differences affect your relationship. If you know your spouse is giving up something to accommodate you, then try and work at making up for it in a different way. This shows you care and also acknowledges that you understand the sacrifice that is being made for you. It is human nature to want such acknowledgement even if they donít openly ask for it.
In order to prevent a divorce and make a marriage work, both partners have to be ready for change. This change can be facilitated by a counselor or can be something that has been mutually worked upon and agreed by both. Change is a difficult thing to accept. It alters the status quo that a couple has been living in. While adjusting to the idea can be difficult, it will make a difference in the long run. Stopping a divorce is not an easy task but with an open mind and a willingness to work at things, it can be achieved.