Do you find that you are constantly missing goals you have set for yourself even when you know perfectly well that you could have achieved them?
Well you are not alone. There are three main reasons that you may be failing to achieve your goals:
1. You did not really want to achieve the goals in the first place
2. You wanted to achieve the goals but you did not have the skills to achieve them.
3. You wanted to achieve the goals, you had the skills, but something totally outside of your control happened to stop you from achieving them.

Let’s go through these reasons one by one.
1) You did not really want to achieve the goals in the first place:
People often set goals for themselves that they do not really want to achieve. They might set a goal to lose 20 lbs within 6 months but do not really want to change their behavior in order to be able to achieve the goal. This is quite simple to understand and resolve. When you decide to set yourself a goal think about what you have to do in order to achieve that particular goal. If at the time you find it more painful to take all the necessary actions to achieve that goal than your perceived enjoyment in or benefit from achieving that goal, then the likely outcome is that you won’t really go for it. And in life, not really going for something generally means not achieving it at all.
2) You wanted to achieve the goals but you did not have the skills to achieve them:
Hey, it is Ok to have great goals for yourself. It is often said that once you really decide to do something the universe will make ways for you to achieve it. Or that once you are ready for something the teacher will appear. Well, both statements are true to an extent. The universe will help you and open doors for you when you are ready. The teacher might even appear when you are “ready”. But you have to have learnt how to walk so that you can go through those doors and get to the other side. You also have to be willing to do the homework that the teacher sets you. So, once you decide to achieve a certain goal, help yourself by learning everything you can about how to achieve that goal. Having at least some of the required skills will multiply your chances of achieving your worthwhile goals.
3) Something totally outside of your control happened to stop you from achieving them:
This is what most people claim to be the reason they do not achieve their goals. This is called making excuses for your failures. Don’t feel ashamed if you do this. We all do this to an extent. We make excuses for not really making the effort to achieve what we have said we would. And since we do not want to admit that we are lying to ourselves we find external events to blame for our lack of effort. Yes, this is very common and quite normal. It is so common in fact that we don’t even feel bad anymore about lying to ourselves that we are lying to ourselves. You have to start taking responsibility for your actions or lack of actions. Once you start to take responsibility and stop blaming everything and everyone else, you begin to gain RESPONSE ABILITY. Failure to fully understand this powerful concept may stop you from fully realizing your full potential.

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