A man likes a woman to say positive things to him, ask questions about and show interest in whatever he does. Of course the one thing that puts him off is a woman who clings - is too needy and wanting all the time. A woman must give him his space. A trick the colleague shares is that the woman must keep withdrawing a bit and coming back again - so as to keep him on his toes. A man appreciates a slight aloofness over a clingy attitude.

If a man needs to appeal to a woman's vanity to be attractive to her, she needs to appeal to his ego if she is to make an impact on him. Most men are susceptible to compliments that boost their self-esteem. And nobody knows this better than a woman.

Give him single-minded attention, flirt with him, prod him on to talk about his day and work, make appropriately appreciative sounds at the right places and soon you will have him eating out of your hands. Till you keep him guessing, he will dance attendance; the moment he knows you are hooked, he will relax his guard and start taking you for granted. A man somehow is convinced that a woman dresses and grooms herself for him, though research shows women dress more for other women!

Men, however, draw a straight correlation between the amount of effort women take with their appearance and their interest in them. As a result, if somewhere along the line a woman stops looking after her appearance, a man sees it as a signal that he is no longer important to her!

And so, just like a man must never stop complimenting a woman, a woman must always look-after her appearance for her man's sake. If he must always pander to her vanity, she needs to pander to his ego. When a woman looks for a sense of humour in a man, she means he should be able to make her laugh; when he seeks a woman with a sense of humour, a man means she should be able to laugh at his jokes! While a woman looks for a bit of a scoundrel in a short-term relationship, he is looking for a bit of a vamp. However for long-term, both change criteria and look for more mind than matter! Now she seeks a guy with potential for moving ahead, while he looks for a good homemaker.

Sounds so clinical and unromantic, doesn't it? And yet, knowingly or unknowingly, it all boils down to just that! What's so different about the 21st century? Primal instincts are still as much at play beneath a veneer of civilization.

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