Both investment banker Andrew and mutual fund manager David were distressed by their low libido. While the adrenalin rush that came from the handling of monies was so great that, to Andrew, sex paled in comparison, David was so stressed with market fluctuations, which swayed his clients' fortunes, that he was left mentally and emotionally fatigued. Today double-income couples find no leisure to unwind and connect as a couple. Any time together is spent on household chores, planning home/car loan payments, discussing economics, or work-related issues. Therefore, the psychic energies of both are locked in preoccupations other than connecting sensually, thus lowering libido in both.

TO ADD THE SIZZLE BACK:

· Consciously plan a weekend getaway. · Make a pact to not discuss work during the holiday. · Make time for each other, at least a few minutes every day in the morning and evening. · Cut down on unnecessary chores to get more free time together.

STOP BEING A SUPERWOMAN

Malvika was excessively preoccupied with her duties towards her in-laws and extended family and coping with a hectic social life, throwing parties and attending them too. She was also anxious about her role as a mother and her children's performance at school. Parents who have moved away from naturally loving and instinctive parenting become emotional wrecks who are torn between showcasing their kids and being unconditionally loving parents. With psychic energies being diverted towards stressful parenting, low libido is a definite fall-out.

FOR STRESS-FREE PARENTING AND BETTER SEX:

· Focus on living sane, balanced and loving inner and outer lives. · Don't get bogged down by parenting pressures. · Don't pile too much on your plate. · Do your best, forget the rest. · Give up trying to please everybody. · Be kind to yourself.

OTHER CAUSES OF LOW LIBIDO

VOWS OF CELIBACY

People who surrender to the philosophies of some spiritual cults that encourage you to take the vow of celibacy, could gradually start experiencing low libido as they sublimate their urges in prayer, rituals and service-oriented activities. The bottom line is that wherever you channelise your psychic energies, they will gradually flow in that direction.

PSEUDO LOW LIBIDO

There is also the entity of a pseudo low libido, which is only reported by the partner of one who 'claims' to have a low libido. Banker Susan reported a virtually non-existent sexual life between her and her husband. Her husband Roger reported that he did not have any sexual urge 'with his wife' and therefore did not initiate sex. His words 'with his wife' gave him away. Roger only 'seemed' to have a low libido, which was not the reality. He was obviously resorting to other outlets for his sexual urges. He later admitted to self-pleasuring with fantasies of other women, which he claimed gratified him more than the 'sexual exercise' with his wife.

SELF-PLEASURING AND PORNOGRAPHY

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