An abusive man is an unhappy and frustrated human being. If it is an uncharacteristic spurt in behaviour then he could seek counselling and you should give him the chance to redeem himself. If however, his physical abuse of your children is habitual and he shows no sign of remorse or wanting to change, it becomes your responsibility to look out for your children. If the only solution remains that you should file for a divorce then so be it.

When Choices Give Us a Better Life

It may be difficult for an outsider to understand why you would want to stay with an abusive man. That would be judgemental because it is hard to break away from a commitment you had made for life. However, it must be understood that marriage is a commitment to a life you thought it would be or was given to believe it would be. If you married a man expecting to be loved and cherished and have a loving father for your children and you find that it isn’t the case, you are entitled to break that commitment. Marriage is not bondage but a life two people choose to share. It will have its happy moments and its unhappy ones but if life together is constantly unhappy, it is not a life.

If your husband wants to change and understands that by abusing his children he is affecting their future, understands that by being abusive he is being a lesser person than he was meant to be, you should support him and help him become a better father and human being. If you feel there is no light at the end of the tunnel, then it is your responsibility to protect your children and do what it takes to give them a better life.

It may be hard to break up a life you are habituated to but know that there is a better life out there without abuse and unhappiness. You should aim for a life where your children wrap their arms around you with love and you in turn give them the strength to become responsible, happy, stable adults, like their father should have been.

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