Confidence with women? When it comes to meeting women online or in person, there is one thing that sets apart the men who get emails, texts, phone numbers, and ultimately, hot dates from the men who sit at home, wishing the women they are emailing would write them back.

That one thing is confidence.

Woman love men who are confident, and they can sniff out men who lack confidence faster than you can type ‘Asian mail order brides’ into your favorite search engine.

If you’re a man who’s got plenty of confidence, keep reading as a quick refresher.

If you’re a man who’s lacking confidence, sit down, read carefully, and get ready to take some notes while I outline the rules of confidence with women.

And until you master confidence, hold off on searching for ‘making out tips’. Sadly, my friend, without confidence, you probably won’t even make it to the first date.

1. Don’t put yourself down. Especially not to get reassurance or to fish for compliments. Women naturally want to give compliments and say nice things about you. But if you go around saying things with a "poor old me" attitude, then women will either refrain from saying anything, or even worse, toss you a few reassuring statements out of pity. And guess what? Women don’t date men that they pity.

2. Don’t assume the worst. Don’t let a hint of rejection creep into your thoughts because then it will bleed over into your words and actions. When you email a woman, don’t assume she’ll reject you by asking her up-front to tell you why she might not want to go out with you. Confident men know that women want to date them, and they don’t give women the impression that they are not even capable of being rejected.

And even though this drives women crazy…it drives them crazy in a good way—the way that will make a woman wonder what it is about you that’s so magnetic. Keep this attitude and you’ll probably have more women than you can probably pursuing you!

3. Fake it until you make it. Even if you don’t feel the confidence right away, if you ACT like you have it, women will treat you as though you already are confident. And when they treat you as though you already have it, your confidence will naturally increase.